The DO's & DON'T'S of 'SOCIALISING' !!

INTRODUCTION 

Let’s first talk about the society first. In a nut-shell, a society has MANY personalities dwelling in it. Some are expert in manipulating people, some just can’t do it. Some are aggressive in approach, others are mere submissive. Some are flamboyant and charismatic; some just avoid the paparazzi & glitterati. Some are outspoken, extrovert & social-bees, others are dark, quite & mysterious. Some are group ambassadors; others hide their infamous-ity. Some lads are as filmy as ever there were, some just the decent chocolate guys. But all combine together to amalgamate the jolliest buddy group- Lively as there ever was! After all, ‘Variety is the spice of life’, and we do realize it more than often in this ‘Bhel-puri’ of Life!

‘Socializing’ in terms of Layman language signifies ‘Interaction with people’. It though depends upon the effectiveness of the ‘socializer’. It doesn’t depend on being an extrovert & an introvert, as both people do make mistakes often. Socializing is an art which can be taught & learned. A mere observation spread all over the group for a couple of minutes can help you in grasping some knowledge, though your enlightenment surely depends upon individualistic experience.
Mastering the ‘Art of Socializing’ encompasses various aspects of Communication Skills, which includes numerous parameters like body language, eye-contact, approach & attitude. In this course, you’ll come across numerous-Witty tips & tricks, Do’s & Don’ts, etc. which are quintessential for the all important impactful socializing. Bon voyage!

SOCIALISING ADVANTAGES:

1. Increase in strong & healthy relationships.
By developing your social skills you become more charismatic, a desirable trait. Most people know you cannot advance far in life without strong interpersonal relationships. Focusing on relationships will help you get a job, get promoted, make new friends and all the jolly things you have ever wished for. None wants s to be isolated/alone. Everyone wants to bask in the limelight of the world. Everyone wants to win people, but have an ear to this advice-“You can’t win people without winning their hearts!” So for winning people & spending time with the dear ones, the BFF’s, buddies {or the fancy words which one calls them}, Social skills are necessary {Of course! There are all reasons in the world, why one can learn them! }
Well-honed Social Skills polishes self-esteem, thereby boosting your confidence. It will genuinely transform your attitude towards life. Life will in-turn reward you handsomely. This outlook will help to reduce the negative effects of prospective stress- which will help in upbringing prosperity in the life of an individual.

2. Advancing Career Prospects
Most worthwhile jobs have a socializing aspect for the most lucrative positions, which generally involve a large amount of time spent interacting with employees, media and colleagues.
It is a rarity that an individual can remain introverted in their office and still excel in their respective job. Most companies are looking for individuals with the abilities to work well in a team, to influence & motivate people to get things done. Team leaderships, Dealing with deadlines by making use of human resources, etc.

3. Increased Overall Happiness
Understanding and dealing effectively with people around yourself, will help to open many flood-gates related to personal as well as career-related doors. Having the enthusiasm to start a conversation at a work-related conference may lead to a new job offer with high salary. A beaming smile & generous ‘hello’ in a social situation may lead to a friendship being formed.

TIPS & TRICKS:

Increase Eye-Contact:

While communicating, you should always try to induce steady eye-contact with the person/group you are talking to. We all know that Eyes speak everything as they are the reflections of your soul. To establish your unique identity among mobs, Sharp & Crisp eye-contact will entice many positive factors around you viz. trustworthiness, confidence, style, honesty, dynamicity, flamboyance, charisma, trustworthiness etc.

Inculcate Healthy Attitude:
For socializing, impression plays a pivotal role. Being friendly, frank, collaborative, cooperative and all the good sweet stuff does help you lad! After all, your attitude redefines your true identity.
Not strange, why people with nothing, save a friendly attitude tend to exceed in the popularity among the mobs. The famous joker from batman once stated “People won’t remember what you did for them or what you said, they just remember one thing-How did you make them FEEL!”
Your warm behaviour imbibes affection & kindness in them. And the effect of reciprocacity kicks in, so what you do, will what you receive!

Project a pleasing appearance:
Imagine a well dressed girl that has the perfect outfit that’ll ever compliment for the party. Her appearance has all the good looks, essence, aura- the virtues you’d ever fantasized for a woman. Her impossible-to-ignore presence has spell-bounded all the spectators with awe! Undoubtedly, having a strong sense of fashion & attractive appearance helps winning maximum nods, compliments & people. Your Lifestyle & fashion both are sources of instant language! Fashion is the most provocative & stimulating enchant you’ll ever use onto.
“Remember your outfit can still save you on your worst day!”-Anonymous

Being Harmonious:
Your socializing endeavour can get spoiled up, if you are found to be Rude, hesitant & non-cooperative. Learn being a team-player first, then a lone-ranger. Being open to ideologies, discussing opinions and interactions with debates will do only for the brighter side of your socializing voyage, until you don’t stop being candid. Nobody will EVER try to ignore/object/withstay a person who is harmonious, calm & ice-headed. After as the commercial goes “Cool is the new HOT!”
Relativity Effect: Kickstart your conversation with the tip of ‘Relativity’!
The stranger is more likely to continue the conversation, if it relates to his/her interest, and that’s’ too easy to understand why he won’t! Humans tend to have progressive & interactive conversation if it relates to their favorite topic. Eg: Avid readers tend to converse a lot if the same novel has been gone through their practiced eyes. They do like the minute details which the other one has/hasn’t noticed. Having the same Author as favorite for both parties is nothing but a delight for ‘em, and delay for the time :-}
Keep Smiling: Have a thorough smile on your face. Yes, a smile has the magical powers to do wonders in this world. So keep on smiling, it signifies friendliness, frankness & affection- which are too important things for the socializing aspect. Even if you don’t know to smile or not willing to smile, be ready for that Gifted smile you own! And as science suggests, having a smile on your face in pressure situations can help to counter-attack the circumstance with more ease & control. Smiling releases stress & secretes ‘happy hormones’ in your body-leading to the ultimate natural smile from within. So, ‘Faking can at times be the Truth’- courtesy the King of Pop MJ did know to mention it in his song Billie Jean! Smile unleashes the effect of ‘Reciprocacity’. So don’t be shy to receive them plenty if you yourself gave it a try!
Rejoice: Rejoicing one-self helps in projecting your dynamicity, your aura. Start celebrating with the group you belong to, as celebrations have the pristine power to make life-ushering memories. Social celebrations are always a top-notch for youngsters as it breaks the ice, inculcates frankness, Kick-starts interaction within the members and what not! Party, Hangouts, Celebrations, etc. are definitely a favorable circumstance-an opportunity you’d never like to miss it. Always beneficial aren’t they!

TO-DO THINGS:

TRY INITIATING CONVERSATIONS-

 Imbibe some boldness, and start conversing right away! Be the ‘Ice-breaker’ thing in the group. Try to make yourself & others in your company more comfortable to reduce strained, formal & pathetic talks :-{ 

Your initiating skills define your confidence & charisma. Its’ too old-fashioned now, to state the benefactor of charisma! Kudos, to those who have personified this desirable virtue/trait ;-}

ENJOY YOUR COMPANY –
Your likeability booms up if you seem to enjoy yourself. It’s the simplest thing you’d have to do for seeking good friends!
People normally accompany those who love themselves. And beaming as ever you’ll try reckoning the long held fact “Not only god helps, but people helps too, those who helps themselves!”

ACKNOWLEDGE RANDOMS –
This can be as simple as a utter-smile. When you make an accidental/purposeful eye contact with a stranger, don’t tear your eyes away immediately in shyness. Give the stranger a friendly smile. I know, it sounds a bit impractical, as smiling boldly to a stranger can mean foolish things said at once. But, if your smile is reciprocated, there will be an easy introduction later. An acknowledgment given to a stranger person in your group, will make such friendly impression in the stranger’s mind, eh? You’ll find the most thrill, interest & enticement from these random encounters-sooner/latter they’ll be your friends. But this trait aids in future fresh endeavours too!

LISTEN –

Take a genuine-authentic interest in people. People are very interesting in the conversations- so actively engage in a conversation. According to a recent survey, people find their good friends as good listeners too, as they are calmly listening to the chitter-chatting of the speaker.
{Do not let your psyche, daydream in the midst of an engaging conversation though, as it will ruin your opportunities in concreting your impression meanwhile}

POSITIVE BODY LANGUAGE –
Always project strong, desirable & smooth body language. Remain Open-Remain Active. Avoid Crossing arms, Unsteady/Weak eye-contact, resonating legs, etc. things. A Person with sound body-language magnetizes the social buzz around him/her, and why should it not happen!
Body-Language is the one of the most prime & paramount aspects of presentable etiquettes.

NOT-TO-DO Things

GADGET USAGE –
Try avoiding phone messages, less-important calls, etc. if in a good conversation/company. Try to ask for some formal excuse if it is an important call. Attend the call therein, and make sure you join the company again with a tinge of humor attached with it, if possible. There is something very rude about being in the middle of a discussion and being shut off by a phone call.

BLIND OBSERVATION –
Notice the minute details of conversation. B’cause this lil’ things do help in understanding people’s mindsets, attitude, interests, etc. These small though difficult-to-notice details will help your behaviour refine & remodel, whilst interacting with them. People will notice you being a thoughtful person- remarking your identity as a noble/descent one. Therefore, being a scarecrow in the mob might not yield you profitable benefits as a keen {but an easy} observation practice will!

CRITICIZE –
 It’s OK to give very own opinion/critique of the topic which is being discussed heatedly. No one has any fun with someone that’s continually upset about little things- a Perfectionist. Respecting others opinion is a benefactor which reverts back with same respect. Hence, in future if you’re to propose a Statement or pitching up an Idea, it won’t get shunned immediately off by the crowd. But, yes, everyone will try to think upon it, making the reply very polite & thoughtful.

JUDGE PEOPLE –
Don’t judge people! You don’t have to. Just as you accept yourself, their acceptance in your life will make things surely comfortable for both parties. Judging people is an undesirable trait of a ‘Perfectionist’ {Though a Perfectionist has its own flaws too}.
But, being judgmental drains away the joy of seeking fun in the imperfections of life. Ofcourse “Not all fingers are same”, cause imperfection is an inseparable element of the universe. Love your imperfection as it perfects your life pal!
 Remember that judging people exposes the vices out to notice first, but beneath them are virtues worth applauding-Remarkable in their own sense. See the brighter side of life {friends too!} Life will be much easy for you pal!

MOST IMPORTANT-

Kudos! To those who are ‘Social-bees’! But those who aren’t, it is not a matter of Herculean task for ‘em. It is just about expressing your ‘True-Self’ to the world around you.
Sounds simple, Right?! Ain’t it as such though!
 Many times, people tend to hide their true identities in the midst of glitterati buzzing around them. But they do forget the universal truth, that -Everyone has a different perspective- personality. Rather than being held back due to your personal issues of appearance, comfort, accent or any other superfluous stuff, start self-believing in your very best of yourself ;-}

Just don’t spend hours in superficially over-introspecting yourself; it will just add to your obscurity of the perception towards yourself.
Find your own groove. Find your own identity. BE YOURSELF. Leaf out your own principles & strategies of your own thesaurus. Everyone is unique in their own sense. And don’t forget the fact that your eccentricity might correspond to the Rarity of the group- Unparalleled! Unmatched!! Unequalled!!! Your ‘Different’ personality can add up spicy twist in your group/mob you prefer to spend time with. After all, the world prefers the Unique- the NEW.
Rejoice in the ‘sui-generis’ you behold.

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.” – Bruce Lee.